Networking Without the Awkward: A Simple Guide

Let’s be honest—networking can feel awkward. For those of you that know me, you may think that I wouldn’t have any trouble meeting new people. I’m typically an outgoing person; however, networking can be overwhelming even for those of us who enjoy meeting people. Walking into a room full of strangers, trying to figure out what to say, wondering if your smile looks friendly or forced, it’s a lot.

But here’s the good news: networking doesn’t have to be stiff or uncomfortable. At its core, it’s just about people connecting with people.

The real trick? Confident body language and a few great questions can go a long way.

Body Language That Says “I’m Glad to Meet You”

Before you even open your mouth, your body language is already sending signals. The right ones can make people feel instantly at ease:

• Smile for real – A natural, warm smile beats a constant toothy grin any day.

• Turn slightly toward them – Facing someone at a slight angle feels more open and less intense.

• Use nods wisely – A gentle nod shows you’re tuned in without rushing the story.

• Eye contact matters – About 60–70% of the time is just right—attentive but not staring.

• Match their vibe – Calm person? Dial it down. Excited person? Lean in a little more.

• Keep your hands visible – It signals trust and openness.

These small tweaks make you come across as approachable, relaxed, and genuinely interested.

Conversation Starters To Go From Boring to Engaging

We’ve all been trapped in the “So, what do you do?” loop. But the best networking happens when conversations feel real, not rehearsed. Try these instead:

• “What’s your favorite part about being at events like this?”

• “How did you first get into the work you’re doing now?” 

• “What’s been the highlight of your week so far?”

• “I’d love to hear what brought you here today.”

• “Have you been to this event before, or is this your first time?”

• “What’s something you’re working on right now that you’re excited about?”

• “Who’s someone you’ve met recently that really inspired you?”

• “What’s one thing you’re looking forward to this month?

• “What do you enjoy most about the work you do?”

• “Outside of work, what’s something you love spending time on?”

  
  

These kinds of questions open the door to meaningful conversations—and they’re way more fun than small talk.

The Bottom Line

Networking isn’t about being the most outgoing person in the room or collecting a stack of business cards. It’s about showing up as yourself, making others feel comfortable, and being curious about their story. When you focus less on “networking” and more on connecting, it becomes a whole lot easier—and a whole lot more enjoyable.

If you would like additional information with networking tips to include how to stop conversations and follow up tips, check out my free networking guide.

👉 Try one new body language tip or conversation starter at your next event—you might be surprised at how quickly real connections happen.

Dr. Julie Olsen